School pictures

Apparently it is school picture season, and I just read that there are some high school girls (and we aren’t talking just twelfth grade) who are having their make up done professionally for these photos.

Why? I understand that the 12th graders do it for the yearbook, or even so they have a shidduch photo. I don’t agree with it, but I understand it. Why does a 15 year old girl need this? The first time I had my make up professionally done was my first wedding. The second time was for my son’s barmitzvah. Third time was for my second wedding and the last time was for my second son’s barmitzvah. For those occasions it was worth it to me to shell out the money to look my best.

For school pictures? I shudder….

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  1. Dovid says:

    Welcome to Monsey…..

  2. deylansmama says:

    REALLY? Wow…I’m speechless.

  3. Baila says:

    My daughter told me that some 12th grade friends of hers back in the states, besides all getting done up, are having their pictures photo-shopped for ultimate shidduch photographs. She said the girls said that 12th grade yearbook pictures are looked at very seriously by potential shadchanim and I guess, suitors.

    It just happened to be that I was unpacking my husband’s and my high school yearbooks when she told us this. We showed our pictures to her and for some reason she was very amused. According to her, we’re very lucky to have found each other, in spite of those pictures.

  4. lady lock and load says:

    My daughters refused to have their makeup done professionally for the high school yearbook pics. I did offer it to them…. They said they could do it themselves and it wasn’t necessary. On the other hand, a friend of mine in teaneck had her daughter made up professionally for pics when she was ten years old (and all her little friends did too). I think it’s sad that kids are forced to grow up so quickly these days.

    • batya from NJ says:

      My daughter might have wanted to have her make-up done professionally for her 12th grade graduation pics but i wasn’t offering to pay for that & as i recall none of her friends were doing that either. In the end she looked lovely with the make-up that her friends applied for her & her hair that her friends straightened for her as well.

      back in the day when i was graduating from my right wing girl’s HS, rumor had it that shadchanim looked at those graduation pics so we had better be sure to look our best for those yearbook pics. that said, i certainly didn’t have my hair & make-up professionally applied & TG i found a great guy who couldn’t care less about how i looked in my HS yearbook pics ;)!!

      • batya from NJ says:

        & i will add that the only times i’ve had my make-up applied professionally was for my wedding, my bro’s wedding & my children’s bar/bat mitzvahs. my 19 yr old had very natural make-up applied for her bat mitzvah (when she was 12) & for my son’s bar mitzvah when she was 16 but that was about it for professional make-up applications for both my 19 yr. old & myself…

  5. Mark says:

    OMG … what have we become?

    • batya from NJ says:

      But Mark when you think about it, don’t non Yeshiva girls have Sweet 16s & proms for which they get “all dolled up” with the professionally applied make-up, fancy hairdos & prom dresses as well? That said, I am not saying that having professional make-up applied is necessary OR appropriate for 12th grade yearbook photos & it DEF is not happening everywhere in the NY/NJ area b/c it did not happen in my daughter’s HS class @ 2 yrs ago…

      • Mark says:

        Exactly! We’ve become (or are becoming) “like them” … so steeped in gashmiut that it obscures almost everything else that is good in life.

        • batya from NJ says:

          I won’t deny that the frum community is steeped in Gashmius especially in the US (specifically the NY/NJ areas) but this craziness regarding looking stunningly beautiful for the yearbook pics stems from the crazy shidduch rules that abound where money & looks are above all & the girls are pressured to look as thin & beautiful as can be or else :(!!

  6. Wow. I guess I’m not surprised – I graduated eight years ago, & Photoshopping was just becoming popular, particularly for kids with braces – but this seems pretty extreme…

  7. Mike S. says:

    My beef with school pictures is that to get a decent price on the pictures I want I am forced to buy a package with a whole bunch of useless (to me) “wallet sized” photos. they never have economical packages with only decent sized pictures.

  8. Nora says:

    I’ve never had my make-up professionally done- 12th grade photos, wedding or otherwise. I’ve always done it myself. My Mom offered to pay for it for the wedding and I had a friend do my eye make-up (mostly because I can’t draw a straight line on my eye, or otherwise, to save my life.) For 12th grade photos it’s ridiculous. At least for a wedding it makes sense -odds are good those photos will be displayed for quite some time.

  9. Ariela says:

    This excellent documentry – “Killing us Softly” does a good job explaining why young girls feel the need to look perfect:

  10. kisarita says:

    huh! makeup is for old fogeys like us! Teenagers are so beautiful naturally, makeup just ruins it!

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