of graffiti and terrorism

Today I came across an interesting new wall decoration in the stairwell near our apartment. It showed a Star of David – a six pointed star, a plus sign, then a five pointed star, an equals sign and the word PEACE. I guess the interpretation is up to the reader. I have interpreted it as “Jews and Arabs should be able to live together in Peace”. To me, the mere idea is preposterous. I would love, more than anything, to know that peace would be possible in our time. However, I know that I will never see peace in Israel between the Jews and the Arabs in my lifetime.

Ten days ago a lone gunman went into a school and murdered 8 young men in cold blood. I read that sentence, and it seems like another tragic school shooting in North America. One tells oneself that the shooter was probably teased and bullied until he was pushed over the edge. Unfortunately we have become slightly blasé about these shootings as they have sadly become more frequent. Let’s add some more words to that sentence, and it changes the meaning.

Ten days ago a lone Palestinian gunman went into a Jewish school in Jerusalem, Israel, and murdered 8 young men in cold blood. No longer does one think of a kid who snapped. The sentence is automatically redirected to the part of the brain that interprets this as a terrorist attack. These 8 young men who were cold bloodedly murdered were killed just because they existed. This “person” who took their lives, who stole their futures, did so because in his opinion a Jew is not fit to walk this earth.

This is what I think terrorism is about. It’s elitism. “I am better than you, therefore I have the right to kill you and claim your property, your land, as my own. I kill you, I show you that I have power over you.” In my eyes it’s not powerful to take a life in such a way. It’s cowardly. If your beliefs are so strong, if you truly believe that what you stand for is right and just, there are the proper channels to go through. A coward takes the life of an innocent. It takes a real man to stand up for his beliefs, to be proud of who he is, to fight for what he sees as right and just.

In the olden days battles were set up and fought on the battlefield, between armies, soldier against soldier, hand to hand combat. Lives were lost, yes, but they were the lives of those who signed up to fight. They knew what was at stake and were prepared to pay the ultimate price. When did it become ok to kill civilians, children, innocents who have nothing whatsoever to do with the conflict? Who decided it was ok to hate someone merely because of the colour of his skin, the shape of his eyes, or the place of his birth?

This person who murdered these boys was himself killed, and probably knew that his actions would lead to his death, and perhaps was comforted by the idea that there would be 72 virgins waiting for him in paradise. How many religions condone murder and suicide? Not only condone it, but promise a reward for such barbaric behaviour? (not that their Koran even mentions such rewards – it does not) How did it come to pass that some so-called religious people bring up their children with the idea that suicide is ok so long as you kill some “infidels” at the same time?

As a mother, I try every day to teach my children right from wrong, to have compassion for every person that walks on this earth as we are all G-d’s creations. It is for Him and Him alone to judge us, at the time that He deems our Judgement Day. I teach my children to tolerate all peoples, all religions, all ethnic groups, not to label anyone as bad or less-than, or better-than. However, when I hear that many Palestinians are taught at home, by mothers and fathers, and at school by their teachers, that they should hate all Jews – I find that a bitter pill to swallow. By this Palestinian logic my adorable 5 year old son should be hated by a Palestinian child of the same age. If they were both in public school in Podunk, North Dakota, they would be playing cars together and giggling over lunch.

We do not bring up our children to hate Palestinians. We do not teach them that the only good Arab is a dead Arab. We teach tolerance and acceptance. Yet how do we explain to our tolerant children why this man hated those boys so much? How do we explain to them that it was not a personal attack against these specific boys, that it was in essence an attack against the very core of our religion? How would you explain that to children who are taught the importance of living in harmony? How does one explain that when as an adult we cannot understand nor accept this painful truth?

How on earth can there even be a hope of peace when these people, those people who fund the terrorists organizations such as Hamas, hate us for the simple fact that we exist. How can you make peace with someone who rejects your right to live? How can we shake hands with our enemy, knowing full well that as soon as our back is turned they will shoot us, that while negotiations are in full swing, their compatriots are firing rockets and missiles at our schools and homes?

I think it is highly admirable to want peace. I question Israel’s leaders agenda in this whole process. What message does it give to the terrorists, when after we have buried our eight newest martyrs who were killed in such an horrific fashion, that Israel is still prepared to continue peace negotiations? “You killed our sons, the future of our country, but hey, that’s ok, we’ll forgive you this time, just promise not to do it again” – what are they thinking? Where is their loyalty to their people? Every single time, after every single terrorist attack in Israel, the politicians release a statement that these events will not derail the peace process. One has to wonder what will it take for the leaders of Israel to take a step back and say “Whoa, this has gone too far”? How many lives need to be lost before they wake up and realize the damage they have done?

I know that it is very easy for me to tell people what to do, to tell the politicians how to run Israel when I live safely in North America. When I send my kids to school knowing full well that they are much safer than their cousins in Israel. Yes, it is easy. But it is also difficult watching MY people suffer, their pain is my pain, I feel their frustration. I may not physically be there with my brothers and sisters, but spiritually I share their soul.

In Israel today there are no winners. In this latest attack, 8 Jewish sons were buried, one Arab son was buried too. Parents mourn their loss. The bond between parent and child transcends race, religion or creed. No parent wishes for their child to die. However, the gulf between those 8 sets of parents, and the one, could not be further apart.

I pray that there will be an end to this bloodshed. I pray that G-d in His infinite wisdom will help us to make sense of this awesome loss. May the memories of these innocent souls be blessed. May their families take comfort in the fact that G-d holds their boys so close to His heart, and that eventually we will be able to see in the bigger picture that their deaths were not in vain.

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  1. treppenwitz says:

    In Israel today there are no winners. In this latest attack, 8 Jewish sons were buried, one Arab son was buried too. Parents mourn their loss. The bond between parent and child transcends race, religion or creed. No parent wishes for their child to die. However, the gulf between those 8 sets of parents, and the one, could not be further apart.

    I thought your essay was wonderfully written and spot on. Except for the one paragraph I quoted above.

    In this one paragraph you have missed the single thing that makes us so different from those who have committed themselves to wiping us from the face of the earth. The terrorist’s parents buried their son amid celebration and congratulations from friends and family. It was a happy occassion for them… celebratory, in fact.

    You said that no parent wishes their son to die but Arab/Muslim culture not only wants their children to die but is predicated on passing on the importance of dying in glorious conflict with the infidel. They called the structure they built a ‘mourning tent’ but it was, in fact, a symbol of victory since martyrdom is among the highest achievements they could want for one of their children.

    Golda Meir once said that Israel will never have peace with the Arabs until they love their own children more than they hate ours. She was being hopeful, but was unwittingly prophetic… because their entire culture is based on death and conflict… and most importantly hate.

  2. hadassahsabo says:

    Trep – i thank you for stopping by and reading. Reading your comment, it struck me just how right you are, and that i know the truth of what you wrote, LOGICALLY! There is a part of me, the part that is 100% a mother, that allows me to deny to myself the fact that there are people out there who could rejoice in the death of a child. the very idea is anathema to the mother in me. But the facts of their celebratory behaviour when one of their own dies for their twisted agenda speak for themselves, and I apologize for my error. There is a part of me that needs to try to humanify these people and raise them to my level, i am forever an optimist I guess!!

  3. marcos says:


    Your writing is beautiful and poignant as d’rigour – this should be published – and of course i am totally in agreement w/you – the three things in my humble opinion that have to be done are:
    1) Very clear and openly proclaimed directives to hamas & others that the missles & murders will not be tolerated any further – no matter what. They have three months for the missles from Aza to stop, or we go in and bulldoze a 7km swath of land – if it continues after that, another 7km will be cleaned – this is announced at the UN.
    2) A very constant public appeal will be made by israel, and whatever “friends” choose to support her, to the Arab nations of the world and their various political and religous leaders to decry any form of anti-Yehud’ism – be it against Israel specifically or Jews in general.
    3) We must redouble our efforts on the “homefront”, both in Israel proper & the galut, to re-jewvinate (sp. on purpose) / revitalize Zionism – redefine the vision where we and all Jews don’t settle for less than the creation of a State who aims to be the best in all areas: education, social justice, medicine, defense, economic, politics, etc…
    Quite easily said, but…..the devil is in the details.
    With great reaspect as always.

  4. hadassahsabo says:

    Marcos – thanks for your kind words. your 3 ideas are great ones, but i think we both know that it won’t happen. It’s tragic really – how many other countries would stand by and allow their people to be killed?
    Peace, Out.

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