From Brothers to Friends

I am not sure when it started to happen, but lately there is more of a camaraderie between the older boys. Used to be that everything had to be fought over. He got a bigger piece than me, he sat in the front last time, don’t look at me like that, Ima he’s looking at me!! and on and on.

These days the older ones actually talk to each other, they listen to the other’s opinion and weigh it, not dismiss it outright. Instead of bursting with telling me what happened at school, they ask where Brother X is so that they can share with him, leaving me out in the cold.

On reflection, being out in the cold is not that bad! I am glad they are building brotherly relationships, learning that their siblings are not necessarily annoying and a bane to their own existence. I am thrilled that I no longer have to show the UN how to broker peace between two rival fighting factions. There are the occasional skirmishes now and then, but there’s usually an easy resolution.

Someone told me this peaceful friendship will only last until they are interested in the same girl – they are all so different, I highly doubt that will happen. Anyway, that is so far off. Girls are still yucky to the majority of my boys. I think. I hope.

I hope they will all be close with one another. I am so blessed with the brothers that I have – I hope my boys will continue to feel the same about their brothers.

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  1. lady lock and load says:

    Beautiful! This is due to your excellent parenting, I think. May you always have much nachas from KoD and the boys.

  2. Typical boys. I was the same way with my brothers.

  3. If your boys are above bar mitzvah, girls are most probably no longer yucky. Hate to be the one to break it to you, but that’s how it works.

  4. Baila says:

    Just curious–how old are the boys? This has happened with my two older daughters as well. It started happening a couple of years ago (they are now 16 and 18). I love it that they are close, but feel bad that the younger one (not that much younger, she’s almost 15) is not so much part of their little clique.

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