DMV – the Redux

The good news I have my interim NYS driver’s license. Traded in the Quebec one for the NYS one now that I am a legal resident alien. Real one with picture is to arrive within 2 weeks or so. However I am convinced I have bad bureaucratic karma. Why the heck can NOTHING paperwork related go smoothly for me? Such a palaver today…

So we arrived there to wait with 30 other people who also had business there. I had all my documents that explained how my names came into being legal even though they are not on my birth certificate.  I had the social security card, my previous driver’s license, the Green Card, my passport, my marriage certificate, my divorce certificate, my first marriage certificate….I had filled out the necessary form. I had the KoD with me – I was ready!

We get called to a window. I hand over the social security card, my previous drivers’ license and my Green Card. (All in different names or combinations of names). The clerk disappeared with my documents to talk with a supervisor. She comes back and asks for my marriage certificate. I hand it to her. Back she goes. Then she tells me I cannot have my license in Sabo-Milner as I have no documents to back up that name. It has to be not hyphenated and no Sabo there. Fine, ok, whatever. Clickety click click on the computer.

I had to fill in another form in my maiden name ie apply for a license under my maiden name, then apply at the same time to change my maiden name to my married name on my driver’s license that I still don’t have. Did that. Signed it. Read the letters above the clerk to prove I can see.

She scanned my documents, and finally told me to come take a photo. I actually asked her if we could photo-shop it. Sigh. Vanity is a terrible thing.

Then we were sent to another window for more scrutiny. The dude tells us that my Quebec marriage license might not be acceptable to change my name on my license. In order to change the name on my NYS driver’s license, which remember, I do not yet have, from my maiden name to my married name, the marriage certificate needs to be from NYS or a US recognized marriage document. They don’t officially recognize Quebec certificates. I started to think – OMGosh do we have to go get married here so I can get a freaking driver’s license in my married name?? We had to wait 10 minutes for the supervisor to rule yea or nay. It was finally deemed acceptable because my social security card was issued under Milner and if they (social security) accepted it, then ok whatever.

Then the dude realizes that he was not given the first application – the one I did under my maiden name. He goes back to the first clerk and she had not kept it for some reason. So I had to fill it out again.

Dude issues me the first temporary license in my maiden name, after taking some money from me. I sign it, then give it back, so he can print me a new one in my married name.  Finally we were done. I signed my interim license and the QoH and KoD left the darn DMV building.

I think I am done with bureaucracy for now. In fact, forever. But sadly, I know there will be more paperwork to do down the road. Let’s hope my bureaucratic karma rating improves.

Happy Driving!!

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  1. Justine says:

    I can Really relate to your tale. I changed all my documents to my married name when I first got married and then after getting divorced it took me so long to change everything back that I decided never to change my name again. I am now remarried with three children and I still have all my bureaucratic stuff in my maiden name. It is my way of protesting!

  2. Z! says:

    What name is on your Greencard? I mean, if it’s good enough for Homeland Security, it *should* be good enough for the DMV (oh ho, but don’t I know how that goes?!!). As I usually travel with my hubby, getting past the border isn’t so tough. Our names match on my American documents. When I have travelled alone internationally, I have brought my mirriage license along as my passport and Greencard don’t have the same names one them.

    I am NOT looking forward to renewing my Canadian Passport in a year or two…

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