WWYD – Interview

So, you sent in your resume and cover letter to apply for the position that you recently saw advertised. The business is local, and you are excited at the prospect of working for this dynamic company as part of a team.

After a few nail biting days you receive an invitation to come for an interview next week. You do your homework on the company and find out that you know someone who works there. So you call them up and go through your list of questions.

This contact tells you that while the person interviewing you is extremely competent at his job, he has a bias when hiring. When it comes to the interview, you are told, you should wear a shorter skirt, make sure you show some leg, wear a tight top too, leave your hair loose, and that way you are guaranteed the job. If you dress down or not-sexy there is a chance that you won’t be successful.

Do you:

a)      Follow instructions because you really want to work there?

b)      Dress as you normally dress and hope for the best?

c)      Decide to do the opposite, dress completely dowdy, and hope you are hired based on experience?

d)     Cancel the interview because you don’t want to work for someone like that?

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  1. mrsmelissasg says:

    Dress as you normally would for an interview. Professionally and in something which is age/agency/weather appropriate.
    If you get offered the job, you’ll know its for good reasons and if it is truly atrocious once you start, you can always keep looking.

  2. Dress somewhere within the range of what you would normally think appropriate. Don’t misrepresent yourself, even implicitly. I vote with mrsmelissa on this one.

    FWIW, I went to a series of interviews a some years ago very consciously dressed ‘down’ so as to be clear on what my personal style is. Dress (cowboy) boots, no tie, tweed blazer. I was hired, and within two weeks I was told that I had to report to a board member’s men’s store to be outfitted with suits and ties. Despite my best up-front effort, they decided to hire me and then pressure me into changing. Since there was nothing forbidden in what they were requiring, I went along to a point. The moral is, even when you try to be as transparent and honest as possible, others may choose to ignore that for their own reasons.

  3. Jess says:

    i’m with @mrsmelissag on this one. dress appropriately for the interview without going out of your comfort zone, in terms of modesty. but definitely go on the interview! you don’t want to miss out on any potential opportunities.

  4. Z! says:

    Go as you had originally planned.

  5. shorty says:

    Dress in your style, appropriate for an interview. I honestly can’t believe that someone would suggest to show skin to get a job.

  6. batya from NJ says:

    Personally, I would be uncomfortable working for a company like that but i agree with mrsmelissasg above that you should go for the interview dressing as you normally would without trying to appear overly seductive looking…
    this info gives me the creeps b/c a frum chiropractor in my area was just arrested the other day for criminally sexual assault on 4 women who came to him to interview for secretarial positions…
    This potential boss seems like a low-life from what your friend was describing IMHO so beware but good luck!

  7. Philo says:

    Definitely B

  8. lady lock and load says:

    Dress seductively and offer the person interviewing you a little “romp in the hay”. That will get you the job…..as a hooker! ;)

    • batya from NJ says:

      LOL LLL! i agree it would be appropriate to dress seductively if applying for a job as a VS model or something of that nature but something sounds fishy here! Hadassah, please keep up posted on how it goes in the end…

  9. I don’t know how well you know the contact, but keep in mind that your contact may be exaggerating or even lying. Wouldn’t it be embarrassing to go along with his suggestions and not get the job for that reason. Or end up being interviewed by someone else entirely.

  10. mokumalef says:

    Am with Batya and Hannah on this completely. Either the contact who is handing you this information is pulling your leg (with or without skin showing …) or something else is going on. I mean who would demand this as an interview (also job?)requirement anyhow??? Also, if you decide to go – and just dress as you! – find out if the person interviewing is someone you’d actually be working with. All sounds potentially worrisome to me.

  11. Estee Lavitt says:

    Dress appropriately as you would have but be aware on the interview and ask questions regarding the harassment policies and office procedures. You can never be too cautious. Research because it’s better to avoid working somewhere where this is an issue. If you’ve been tipped off it would be naive to ignore it- let alone buy into it!

  12. As others suggested, dress as you’d planned to. Look nice, look appropriate, look professional. And if possible, for the time being, put your friend’s words out of your mind. Who knows what pre-existing biases that friend has against his or her boss? Don’t let his or her views get in the way of yours. If you meet with the employer & he seems creepy or sketchy or inappropriate, follow your gut, paired with your friend’s warning. But make your own impressions.

  13. Risa says:

    Another thing about an interview is that it works both ways. You must also be scouting out the workplace. Do you really want to spend a significant amount of time in a place where you will be judged by the length of your skirt, day in and day out?

  14. ERICA says:

    Is this actual or hypothetical? Given sexual harassment awareness and current laws, I’m wondering whether you’re just trying to get a lively discussion going. Someone who has that approach is gonna be slapped with a lawsuit sooner rather than later, “dynamic team” notwithstanding.

  15. T says:

    well now that’s not fair…you get to prejudge the person interviewing you!? what the hells up with that! Who’s to say this contact is legit themselves!!!
    in any case. I’d go in, dressed appropriately for an interview! Don’t forget…you are interviewing your potential boss too! Everyone forgets about this little important factor. You WILL know by the time the interview is done…whether it’s a place/ persons you want to work for.
    either way…good luck to you. Hope it goes the way you want it too!

  16. DV says:

    I am a follower but a forst time poster. I hop this doesn’t seem to harsh but following you all this time, you never struck me as the type of person to even entertain this type of idea. I would hope you are secure in yourself and your marriage that you don’t need to show skin to other men to get a job.

  17. fille says:

    1) I suppose a person having this bias would tend to hire you, even without you being explicitely “seducing”

    2) If that were the case there would be a question indeed whether this is a desirable job, considering what could come afterwards.

    3) I like the idea of asking about harassment policy, but this might cost you the job.

  18. Dovid says:

    Hey, I kow im a bit late here, but, companies tend to google you before you come for an interview. Chances are that someone who would want to see “some” would be more likely to google you. What do you think he will think if he sees this?

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