Why call when you can email?

I have noticed amongst many of my contemporaries that we are using the phone less and less to communicate with each other. The emails and IMs fly fast and furious. If friends are on twitter or facebook, even better. In fact, I probably communicate with most people in my life primarily online – other than my husband and kids.

I have got to the point that if I have a business call to make, I will check to see if I could possibly email instead. It isn’t that I hate the phone…..but with email there is a record of everything discussed. Ok, maybe I do hate the phone a little – possibly has something to do with a fear of confrontation, especially with important business / school calls. Perhaps a fear of saying the wrong thing? With an email I can take my time to word it and reword it until I am happy with what it says.

I speak to the KoD at least once per day, usually for an hour or more. But the KoD is the exception, rather than the rule. When we were dating we spoke for 5 hours nightly. Glad we finally got married – I needed the sleep!! I talk to my immediate family on the phone too. Although, with Gmail chat with video – it’s even easier to communicate – and you can see them too.

Are you like this? Why do you think this is? Are we just lazy or anti-social or is it just infinitely easier to shoot someone an email than use the phone?

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  1. Tuvia says:

    I do the same thing with emailing instead of calling…having a record, especially at work is key. Many times I have needed to go back to an email to prove something.

    Who needs text messaging though when you can email phone to phone? Its just as instant but no character limit, plus the person can respond by computer or phone, so its more convenient for them too

  2. EsotericEsther says:

    I have come to hate telephone conversations because I can’t multi-task as well when I’m on the phone actually listening to what the other person is saying. With e-mail available on out phones, we come expect an instantaneous answer.
    They have their pros and cons.

  3. Z! says:

    It is the anonymity that an email provides that is priceless. You can’t be “put on the spot”. Something that you mean to be scathing can be taken in another way in writing. Also, something you might not want to say ‘in person’ can easliy be written and sent.
    It’s funny, I was just thinking about calling you last night!

  4. Lady Lock and Load says:

    With the cell phone or blackberry in the palm of our hands, these devices have become an appendage to many of us. It has pluses and minuses. Yes, we can get through to people and get fast answers, but sometimes I just want to hear someone’s voice!
    Another good thing is that you have to think before you write or text so perhaps less loshon horah?

  5. Jack says:

    It is a time thing with me as well as a question of whether I truly have anything to say.

    Sometimes I am too busy to get involved in a long conversation, so it is easier to drop a quick line.

  6. Otir says:

    I use email a lot more than the phone.

    What is difficult with the phone, is the idea that I might disturb someone: we need to be dealing with the conversation at the same time and I don’t necessarily know what is going on at the other end, if it is a “good” time when the other is not distracted by something more important to her or him.

    The downside I am seeing now is that people I email seldom respond back! For instance, if someone has asked for an information that I will provide with an email, rather than a quick phone call, I would at least expect a “thanks, well received” email back. And this does not happen very often, and it shocks me a lot.

    I understand that we can’t go back and forth sending emails acknowledging receipts of the acknowledgement etc. but still, I find that the numbers of unacknowledged messages from me is growing in an incredible fashion.

  7. email doesn’t have a time zone issue
    I do admit to a phone phobia.

  8. Ari says:

    I prefer email too. It’s unobtrusive and one can control the length of dialogue.

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