Who drives?

If you are part of a couple, who generally drives? I miss driving around town. I miss the freedom and convenience having a car brings. Highway driving for 6 hours doesn’t really fill back up my need-to-drive-a-meter. When I went down to NY recently with a girlfriend, I drove most of the way in her car. For the first part of the trip I went slowly insane not being behind the wheel. Once I took over, I relaxed.

However, when I go somewhere with the KoD it’s assumed he will drive. By both of us. I have no problem being his passenger. Perhaps he always drives because he is more familiar with how to get to places in NY than I am. But, no, that doesn’t work, because even when he is here in Montreal, he still drives, I just tell him where to go. Is it a trust thing? That I know I am safe with him behind the wheel? Is it because I know that if I would be driving and he would be next to me, my concentration would be totally shot?

How does it work with you?

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  1. Lady Lock and Load says:

    Lord Lock and Load generally does the driving but sometimes I do, and he doesn’t mind at all.

  2. mrsjessica says:

    He drives, I navigate. He has no sense of direction and knows it, but if we don’t know where we’re going I can’t drive and look at the map at the same time. Also, it helps him learn where we are going.

    My parents had to work this one out. Their default was also to have my dad drive, but he is also the only one with a sense of direction in the couple, and so at certain times they’d have to switch so he could navigate. When I got old enough, he would drive and I would navigate.

    We actually talked about this a few weeks ago, and have been making it a little more equal, because I like driving too. He still does more driving than me though.

  3. Z! says:

    Well, since R got into a minor car accident in our trailblazer a few weeks ago and we now have a TAHOE- I let him drive. I have my permit, but that sucker scares the crap out of me!

    My parents are also funny. My mom does the majority of the driving I would say. In fact, when they started dating, my dad didn’t have a car. My dad was a public transpo/biking type of guy to work. He did get a second car many years ago, and they still have two cars- even with other drivers out of the house, but mostly mom drives.

  4. Vicki says:

    It’s funny that you bring this up because there was just a study done about it: http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/01/11/are-women-being-taken-for-a-ride/ The answer is that men drive more in general.

    The default is that Mr. B drives,but I’m the better driver and better at getting a sense of where we are in the area (0 car accidents where I was at fault to his 2 where he was at fault) so if we need to get somewhere fast, it’s usually me at the wheel.

  5. batya from NJ says:

    my husband is always the designated driver when we are together which works just fine for me ‘cuz he is the more experienced driver of the 2 of us & he has a much better sense of direction so it’s usually a no-brainer !-pardon the run-on sentence :)!

  6. Kristie says:

    I let my hubby drive everywhere. For me it was a big deal to let go of that control, and it was a trust thing for me. When I started trusting him early on in our relationship, I let him drive my car lol. If we are on an long distance trip, then I will drive some during the daylight hours, while he sleeps, because for the life of me, I can’t shake sleepiness during those drives at night! :-P

  7. Chanief says:

    For us it depends whose car we are taking. If we’re in mine, I usually drive and he usually drives in his.

  8. I’ve lived in Manhattan most of my life. I never learned to drive. I’ve taken lessons.

  9. Duvii says:

    What, we are all control freaks, haven’t you heard?

  10. Mike S says:

    I do days, she does night driving.

  11. Mark says:

    I always drive, even when we drive 10 hours straight through the night to Atlanta to my in-laws!

  12. Cam says:

    I drive. I’ve always loved driving (did it for a living at one time), so I was the default driver, with Craig taking over when I got tired, or if I just didn’t feel like it.

    Now, with Craig’s narcolepsy being so bad, I have to do all the driving, with Craig only doing short trips in an emergency.

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