Some hair covering thoughts – just a stream of consciousness

I am not usually embarrassed to say I wear a wig. I cover my hair for religious reasons, and when necessary, I will get into the discussion of the whys and wherefores.

So when someone who is unaware that I am wearing a wig tells me my hair looks so pretty today, I want to tell them it isn’t really my hair. That it is a wig. I don’t, because, well, I don’t want to be looked at like I am, God Forbid, sick.

I was just at the Pharmaprix, and the cashier complimented my new look. Truth is, it’s snowing out there today and I didn’t want to wear my nicest wig, so I shlepped out an old synthetic and just styled it. It doesn’t look like real hair. Not at all. I perched my sunglasses on the top just so to accessorize and off I went. I just smiled at the cashier and we chit chatted for as long as it took to ring up my purchases and I left.

In religious circles we think nothing of asking other women where they got their wigs, how much they paid, who styles it etc. Us wig wearers can generally notice other wig wearers in a nanosecond. Some non-orthodox people might be shocked to hear another woman ask “where did you buy that wig?” but for us it’s normal and non offensive.

But then there is the flipside. I have a wig that has no fringe / bangs, and I am not sure I like the hairline. I cheat a little (sh! Don’t tell) and use a little of my own hair at the front to make the hairline look more natural. I was recently out somewhere and some older frum woman, who I had never met, asked me if I was really wearing a sheitel because the hairline just looked so natural. What would you have responded? I was honest, and said “yes it’s a sheitel, but I cheated a little”. Afterwards I kind of thought I shouldn’t have even answered the question, i felt it was a little rude.

Now you can blast me all you want for cheating. When I wear a scarf more of my hair shows that when I “cheat” with my sheitel. And as far as I am concerned, I am covering most of my hair, and am therefore mekayemet (keeping) the mitzvah. Even when I am wearing someone else’s hair on my head, I am aware that it is not my own, and that I am married, which is partly the point of wearing something on one’s head. As a reminder that one is married. Not that I am likely to forget, as KoD is never out of my thoughts.

I enjoy never having a bad hair day, not having to spend hours straightening or curling my hair, styling it just so. I enjoy that I do not look different than other women around me – to the point that when I wear a snood or a tichel, I do feel I stand out (not that I care most of the time). Look, we all notice the women who wear the hijab, or the burka, the Chassidic wives with the turbans, or the shpitzels. Someone who just has hair on her head, whether hers or a wig, doesn’t command attention. And to me, that is more tzanuah than anything.

There is an argument that these new human hair custom sheitels look nicer than the real hair of the woman wearing it, so it defeats the purpose. You know what, yes, my human hair wig does look nicer than my real hair, but my husband has absolutely no desire to run his hands through my sheitel. Because it isn’t my hair therefore it is not a part of me. So it doesn’t defeat that purpose at all.

Feel free to add your hair covering thoughts.

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  1. Keith Brooks says:

    Still waiting for a definitive source on head covering. And no, the posuk about a sotah is not the basis for this.
    The only references to men or women covering their head is for brachot. One can argue you are always making brachot and thus should be covered but it’s not a mitzva either.

    • hadassahsabo says:

      I will let someone more learned than I discuss the sources…

    • Duvii says:

      Keith, Rabbi Broyde has written one of the most comprehensive views on the subject I’ve seen in the last 20 years. I think he does a great job of getting to the heart of the matter. His goal is to find a Zechus for those women who refuse to cover their hair but I am fairly certain that he does not support it as a matter of course.

      http://traditiononline.org/news/_pdfs/0095-0180.pdf

      Duvii

      • Keith Brooks says:

        Duvii,
        That was a most interesting reading and reiterates what I already knew/learned.
        The problem he states and quotes from others, is there is no direct prohibition and even says if one moves to a place that it is not normal to cover one’s hair one doesn’t have to. Thus custom like people wearing coats and fur hats..in Florida..because their rebbe that lived in the frozen russia did it.
        Circumstances do dictate a certain reality. But one has to be of intelligent mind as well.
        The problem with the Sota posuk is it is in the temple and so everyone covers their head. And this article agrees as well.

        • Mark says:

          The other problem with the sota pasuk is that bpshat (most translations) it doesn’t say “uncover”, but it rather says “muss up” (and “unbraid” by many commentators).

          Finally the biggest problem of all is that erva is erva, and nobody has ever explained to any level of satisfaction how hair suddenly turns into erva upon marriage.

          • Keith Brooks says:

            Erva, based on the article, would imply what society accepts as a norm, would not be erva.
            Thus a perpetual problem between fashion, politics and cultural norms/taboos.

            Which is why I find it so amusing the people who tell me it’s a mitzva or a halacha, like wearing tzitzit which isn’t either, nor is a kippa.
            If you do it, good for you, maybe there is something on the other side waiting, maybe not. No one can tell you.
            Customs/traditions, while stemming from references, are not halacha, as in the article when he discusses mourning.

  2. ilanadavita says:

    I enjoy reading this even though I am not sure that headcovering is required of women nowadays.

    • hadassahsabo says:

      Thanks!

    • Duvii says:

      Ilalan,

      You may want to take a peek at the reply I left for Keith above.

    • ilana-davita, why shouldn’t they be required now? Does Shabbat or kashrut change? I could never understand the “expired” mitzvah concept.

      • ilanadavita says:

        Batya I meant “wigs” rather than headcovering in general. My mistake!

        • There are women who wouldn’t cover their hair at all if they couldn’t wear wigs. That’s why the Lebovitch Rebbe approved wigs. If I hadn’t discovered my great-great grandfather’s disapproval of wigs, I may have added them to my hair-covering collection along with the hats and scarves. (the story is in the book)

        • batya from NJ says:

          but ilana, wigs are the acceptable head gear in some communities (minhag hamakom) & not wearing them (& instead wearing hats/snoods) would make women feel uncomfortable especially at special occasions such as weddings, bar mitzvahs or even on shabbos…i think that in most orthodox communities in the US, wigs are considered acceptable head coverings especially full wigs that cover most of one’s hair even though it may seem counterproductive & less tzanua/modest than one’s natural hair…

  3. Lady Lock and Load says:

    Here in Rockland you don’t have to be Jewish to wear a wig, I know some people who wear a wig because they like them, find it very convenient and they are so nice looking.
    I think it is very rude to ask a total stranger if she is wearing a wig or not, but I think you did well the way you handled it. We were once at a hotel with my in laws and someone went up to her to ask if she was wearing a wig (she wasn’t). Good thing my mother in law found it very amusing, but I was horrified! What a yentish thing to do!

    • tesyaa says:

      It is very easy for me to pick out a non-Jewish woman wearing a wig – usually they are older but not always.

      I have a non-religious friend in her mid-40s with hair loss (genetic), and she bought an awesome piece from one of the Jewish wig places in Brooklyn called a “yarmulke”. When her friends & relatives noticed the difference she told them she had a weave – she realized they would be comfortable with that but not so accepting about her wearing a hairpiece.

  4. Mark says:

    I have a few quick questions (but might comment more later).

    As a reminder that one is married. Not that I am likely to forget, as KoD is never out of my thoughts.

    Is covering ones hair really meant, at least partially, to remind a woman that she is married???? I find this very hard to believe because I can’t fathom how anyone could possibly forget that they are married (besides, isn’t there a ring on the hand all the time as well)!

    You know what, yes, my human hair wig does look nicer than my real hair, but my husband has absolutely no desire to run his hands through my sheitel. Because it isn’t my hair therefore it is not a part of me. So it doesn’t defeat that purpose at all.

    But the sheitel isn’t “for” your husband at all, it’s for every other man in the world. In theory, you could remove it immediately upon entering your home (which is what my grandmother does, and why it takes her a little longer than usual to answer the door*), and your husband would rarely even see it (except when out of the house together, say on Shabbat, etc).

    * This “put on the sheitel quick” delay before answering the door sometimes causes problems. Last year my grandmothers life-alert alarm went off, and when we got the call, we immediately called her cellphone and there was no answer. So, I jumped in the car and drove to her apartment, knocked on the door and waited. When she didn’t answer the door in 15 seconds or so, I chose not to cancel the emergency services that were on the way. A minute or two later, she answered the door, meanwhile the paramedics drive up, and my grandmother is standing in the door saying “I had to put on my sheitel and get presentable!” Oy Vey!!! And her cellphone was off, probably because of a depleted battery, and her home phone was screwed up because the life-alert box took control of the line that whole time. The paramedics insisted on a quick examination anyway :-)

    • hadassahsabo says:

      “Is covering ones hair really meant, at least partially, to remind a woman that she is married????”
      Yes Mark I was taught this, that if a woman gets herself into a situation where she might be attracted to a man other than her husband, the fact that she may have to remove her hair covering to “act” on this attraction will supposedly bring her to her senses. (bit extreme, but i have heard it from more than one rabbi)

      “But the sheitel isn’t “for” your husband at all, it’s for every other man in the world”

      True, but if my own husband who loves everything about me doesn’t want to run his hands through my sheitel, why would another man? Most men that i meet KNOW I am wearing a sheitel.

      Your grandma story – I keep a mitpachat close by if I am in the house and my hair is uncovered. Putting on a sheitel takes too long when you are answering the door. A mitpachat or tichel takes no time at all.

    • batya from NJ says:

      me again, & i would agree with mark that other guys may be very attracted to a beautiful european custom sheitel regardless of whether the KoD would or wouldn’t want to run his hands thru it. who’s to say that another dude wouldn’t want to & yes, i remember that episode that mark was referring to, when edith bunker was nearly seduced by another man. i didn’t watch the links that mark just posted but i have vague recollections of the episode…

    • It may be time to either keep the wig on or have an easy to wear hat by the door.

  5. batya from NJ says:

    H, you asked about the older frum woman who wanted to know if you were really wearing a sheitel b/c the hairline was so real, i would have just said yes, b/c it is the truth (you are wearing a sheitel) & i would have thanked her for her comment about how natural it looked…i don’t know if i would have bothered telling her that you cheated (aka-were showing some of your own hair) b/c it was none of her business but i guess she was just impressed with the naturalness of it all which is a compliment that you should be happy to accept graciously!

    • hadassahsabo says:

      sometimes I need to just take the compliment and keep my mouth shut!!

      • batya from NJ says:

        it can’t hurt, m’dear ;)!

      • Lady Lock and Load says:

        I think in this case it is possible that the woman knew exactly what hadassah was doing and wanted to point it out to her. So hadassah could have said Thank You, and Yes it is a shaitel. And the woman could have persisted on saying how very natural the hair line was. But hadassah, why is this considered cheating if you hold, like other people in the neighborhood, that a certain amount of hair can be “exposed”. I see women wearing falls and the wig starts further back to show the natural hair line on purpose. Otherwise if you get the fall to cover all your hair and put a band on it looks terrible (I know this from personal experience!)

        • batya from NJ says:

          LLL, i suggested the exact same thing that H say yes it is a sheitel & thank you! it was really not that woman’s place to point out to H that she was showing her own hair esp since she was a stranger to H. if it were a good friend asking, then it would be a diff story but why bother ‘fessing up with a stranger not that it’s such a crime anyhow IMHO. i really think the lady was just impressed with the naturalness of the sheitel & perhaps she was wondering where she could purchase 1 with a natural hair-line like H’s… Also, it is possible that in H’s yeshivish community in Mtl it may not be acceptable to show a tefach of hair as it may be in monsey….

      • Next time, say it’s a trick technique you picked up which can’t be explained on the street.

  6. Lady Lock and Load says:

    In Monsey we have alot of different types and different type of head “gear” to go with. Sometimes people lose sight of what the actual halacha is and get stuck on what is acceptable in their circles.

  7. Z! says:

    A friend of mine in Lakewood is one of the frummest people I know. She wears hats, tichels, sheitels- u name it. When she wears a tichel, she lets a bit of hair, less than a tefach show in the front and sees nothing wrong with this.
    Her daughter’s school implemented a new rule that “no mother is allowed to come into the school to pick up their child unless they are wearing a full sheitel.” Y? So that NO hair would be showing at all. Falls were not permitted, or hats.
    My friend went to the school to pick up her daughter and the principle actually had the audacity to pull her aside and stand her infront of a mirror and ask her if she saw anything wrong with her reflection. She replied slowly- “no, my husband lets me leave the house this way.” The principle has since stopped bothering her about it.

    • batya from NJ says:

      Z! i’m surprised your friend’s kids weren’t kicked out of the school but maybe it’s b/c they pay full tuition or something ;)! seriously though, kol hakovod to your friend for standing up for herself b/c that is so humiliating & some ppl might have been too taken aback to come up with a good response to the principal…

    • hadassahsabo says:

      I have a few issues with this. my main issue is the embarrassment of your friend. so unnecessary. but i guess its better than an anonymous letter through the mailbox. a smaller issue i have is “my husband lets me” – What is she? Chattel? Does her husband own her? Or was she just saying it to appease the principal?

      • Anyone abused, insulted, embarrassed like that in public should say she’s makpida on derech eretz and doesn’t count other people’s hairs.
        If it was a male making the statement, a simple:
        “I thought it assur to stare at other women like that.”

    • Mark says:

      What that principal did, even in private, is disgusting and probably assur as well. Who the he11 does he think he is?

  8. Lady Lock and Load says:

    Z! You have a friend in Lakewood, does she know any boys, I have three daughters! And I cover my hair all the way so I am very choshuv.

    • batya from NJ says:

      hey LLL, Z!’s friend should get you in touch with the principal. i’m sure she’d be happy to assist :)! (like H. i’m assuming the principal is female…)

      • Z! says:

        I do remember her telling me the principal is female. And she used the “my husband’s lets” with a huge doe eyed, slack jawed stupid “I’m just a woman expression.” LOL

    • hadassahsabo says:

      LLL – does your tichel cover your eyebrows too? coz that’s also hair.

      • Lady Lock and Load says:

        I thought of covering eyebrows and eyelashes but then I wouldn’t be able to see anything, could be a bit problematic. Then I couldn’t read “In the PINK”. OIY!

        • hadassahsabo says:

          you shouldnt be on the yenta-net anyway. treifus. and do you cover your hair ALL the time? Even in the shower?

          • Lady Lock and Load says:

            How is your leg doing hadassah?

          • hadassahsabo says:

            ooh that bruise is something ugly. turning violent shades of purple. 5 inches by 4 inches.

            (I fell in the shower yesterday)

          • batya from NJ says:

            is it very painful or does it just look horrible? i would assume both :(. feel better!

          • hadassahsabo says:

            hurts like holy hades! my arm and shoulder too – I guess from grabbing the towel rail to stop my fall. (pass the geritol lol)

          • batya from NJ says:

            i’ll bet. good luck sleeping tonight…those falls are the worst. in the past, whenever i have fallen & gotten bruised, i have always thought about what it’ll be like when i’m 90 & i fall in the assisted living center-i’ll take some geritol too :)!

          • sheldan says:

            Would you pronounce that “Haydeez”? :-)

          • tesyaa says:

            Hadassah, talking about your leg might give people impure thoughts, especially if they get turned on by purple bruises!

          • hadassahsabo says:

            You totally made me LOL when i read that comment! So I shouldn’t post a pic either??

          • sheldan says:

            At least we can laugh about what may or may not be “assur”!

            Maybe it is a barometer of how much a sense of humor religious Jews may have here?

        • batya from NJ says:

          LLL, you can always wear a paperbag & cut out 2 eyes so that you can see & then you can still read in the pink ;)!

  9. Talia says:

    I grew up in a reform home (with a reform rabbi as a dad, uncle, grandfather, and great-grandfather) and we became more observant (my dad & immediate family) in the past 11 years. I don’t know if it is strange but I can’t WAIT to be married and cover my hair. It seems like such a badge of honor that my hair would be so beautiful that I would keep it only for my husband! I live in a not very Jewish town and I fear I will walk around telling everyone that my hair is not my hair but rather a wig I wear. But you’re right… people will assume that you have cancer or have been sick, the same as if you wear a scarf. :(

    I think that maybe it is still something that I keep special for my husband in that realm too. As for the questions… I know it is commonplace, since everyone wears one, that women ask about the sheitel. And clearly that woman saw that you had done such a good job making a sheitel without fringe look natural (which is VERY hard) that she was admiring your work. I don’t think it was wrong of her to ask…

    But why do you think you were upset? It seemed to me, by your post, that you felt you had to defend your actions. Like you said, your “cheating” showed less of your hair than a tichel. I say, who cares?! Enjoy your “cheating” and wear that beautiful wig proud! :)

  10. RivkA says:

    As always, I have such complex thoughts about the hair covering/wig business.

    I keep promising to post about it, but have not managed yet.

    Not sure how much the delay is caused by “avoiding” the issue….

  11. Yonit says:

    When I was single I romanticized about saving my hair for my husband. The reality unfortunately was that being covered all day wrecked my hair and it always looked terrible if it was uncovered. B”H that isn’t the only reason I cover.

    I know how you feel about receiving compliments about your sheitel. I don’t know why people think I’d be flattered that my sheitel doesn’t look like a sheitel, I’m not trying to look like I’m transgressing. That’s like going to someone’s house for a meal and saying “Wow, that was so delicious it tasted like it could have been trief” half compliment half insult.

    • Talia says:

      Ohhhhh! Good one, Yonit! that is a great point about the dinner.

      I think we are always wistful for what we don’t have. Curly hair wants straight, straight wants curly… etc. :)

  12. I don’t wear a wig, just everything else. The story is in Chapter 18 of “Hide and Seek.”

  13. Deborah Shaya says:

    In ancient times, a woman would only cover her hair upon entering the Beit HaMikdash. Similarly for the Sotah-otherwise she would not be required to cover her hair ordinarily, day to day.

    It is very important for people to know and realise that when a married woman covers her hair with ‘Real Hair’ the woman is covering herself with 100% Tumah. This is totally against the Torah.

    Nothing could be more nonsensical than for a Jewish woman to cover her hair with someone else’s hair -who was not Jewish as well! She can never fully be sure that this ‘hair’ has not come from meitim-despite any guarantee by the seller.This ‘real hair’ is doubly and in some circumstances, triply Tumah.

    1.It will contain the leftover dead hair cells from another person – however much it has been treated, the tumah is still there.

    2.This other person (likely to be a non-Jew who most likely was involved in some kind of Avodah Zarah) may have eaten bacon, ham, lobster etc, all of which are totally forbidden as unclean and non-kosher foods in Halacha.

    3.If the woman happens to be the wife of a COHEN, then she is bringing her husband into close contact and proximity with meitim and Tumah Every day, and throughout their married life. This is clearly strictly against the Torah.

    There is nothing more degrading and demeaning to a woman than to make her cover her hair FOR LIFE upon marriage.It is an abhorrent practice.

  14. Deborah Shaya says:

    Any man who makes such a ridiculous demand on his wife, or wife-to-be, should similarly also be required by his wife to wear: long white stockings, even in the summer; a fur streimel; grow a long beard; wear a black hat and coat constantly, and cover his face when he speaks to his wife.Wigs -”la perruque”- were merely a fashion item in the time of Louis XIV-they are not for the Jewish woman!

    Rabbi Menachem Schneeersohn tz”l, gave the directive that a married woman must cover her head with a “sheitel.” This needs to be corrected. Rabbi Schneersohn a”h, was a Tzaddik, – but on this – he was, unfortunately not correct.

    It is extremely unhealthy and unhygienic for a woman to cover her hair constantly.The hair needs oxygen to breathe.A woman’s hair will lose its natural beauty and shine, she may have scalp problems, some of her hair may fall out, she may get headaches, and she may end up cutting it short like a man, when she always wore it long, in order not to have too much discomfort from her hair covering.

    Do you think that HaKadosh Baruch Hu commanded this of women? I can assure you that He did not.The commmandments are not meant to cause so much repression and oppression in women.Was Chava created with a wig? Of course not! Did she start wearing a wig? Of course not!

    Please Wake Up.

    Use the spark of intelligence that Hakadosh Baruch Hu gave to you and blessed you with.

    And give your wig back to your husband if you wear one.

  15. Deborah Shaya says:

    1. To all the women who are wondering about the sources:

    We have all been created, “Betselem Elokim” – “in the image of Elokim.”
    This means that we have been given something called “intelligence.” The source is the very first Parsha, Bereishit – 1:27. It is time that people use the spark of intelligence and Kedusha with which Hashem has blessed them.

    If your rabbi will tell you to go and jump into the depths of a glacier, presumably you would do that too – and give me a source for it?

    “According to the Zohar”, I should also be covering my hair with a wig when I have a bath. “According to the Zohar and the Gemara” and all the sources that have misinterpreted the Halachah, and MIStranslated the Zohar, I should also have been born with a WIG on my head.

    These sources and translations are incorrect, as they have deviated very far from the true and correct interpretation, of the Halachah.

  16. Deborah Shaya says:

    2.Remember that the Jewish women are very, very holy. They are much more holy than the men. Look at the exemplary behaviour of the women at Har Sinai.

    The women never sinned at the Eigel, and so are greatly elevated. Many of the men, unfortunately, ran after a calf made out of a lump of gold – after they had just been given the Torah, and seen the greatest of all Revelations. The women refused to give their gold for the avodah zarah of the men.

    The women were greatly elevated after such a wonderful display of Emunah, and they are regarded very highly in Shamayim.

    That is why women are not even required to pray. They can pray at home on their own. Nor do women have to make up a minyan. That is how holy the Jewish women are. Men have to pray 3 times a day to remind them of their Creator.

    The men are telling the women to put the hair of a non-Jewish woman who may have eaten things like snakes and sharks and alligators, and has worshipped in churches, Buddist temples or Hindu temples : on their own Heads. They had better wake up.

    If the men don’t want to wake up to the truth, and the true interpretation of the Halacha, the women will wake them up – whether they like it or not.

    3. Many righteous women influenced their husbands for the good at the Chet Haeigel and at the time of Korach.

    It was these righteous women who succeeded in bringing their husbands back to their senses.

    And because of these great women, the lives of their husbands were saved. Those men therefore turned away from the madness of avodah zarah, and the rebellion of Korach against Hashem’s choice of Aharon, as Cohen HaGadol.

  17. Deborah Shaya says:

    4. Look at the Jewish women in history, and remember how holy they are.

    (a) Yaakov, who was the greatest of the Avot, came to marry the 2 daughters of Lavan, Rachel and Leah. Lavan was not exactly a tzaddik. Yaakov went to Lavan, of all people, to marry his 2 daughters – not 1 daughter, but his 2 daughters. Nothing could be greater than that.

    (b) Rut, who came from Moav, became the ancestor of David Hamelech.

    (c ) Batya, the daughter of Paroh, was given eternal life because she rescued Moshe from the river. No one could have been more evil than Paroh.

    (d) Devorah, was a Neviah, and also a Judge.

    Women who came from such adverse backgrounds, were able to become builders of Am Yisrael. That is how holy the women are, and how much more elevated they are than the men.

    This was never the case with men. It never happened the other way round.

    Don’t tell me it is holy for me to wear a WIG! Hair over my own hair? This is ridiculous!

    Similarly, don’t tell me it is holy for me to plonk a permanent head covering on my head for the rest of my life. This is equally vile.

    Please Wake Up.

    Use the spark of intelligence that Hakadosh Baruch Hu gave to you and blessed you with.

    And give your wig back to your husband if you wear one.

    5. Remember: Not a single “dayan” or “rabbi” has the slightest bit of interest in correcting the situation for the women. Therefore, the women will have to correct the situation…………….for ………………themselves.

    Whether you wish to accept the correction – which is true – is up to you. Are you going to live by the truth? Are you going to use the spark of intelligence that Hashem gave to you and all women? Or are you going to follow rabbis and dayanim who tell you to wear a wig in a Heat Wave – and you thank them for it as well?

    • HSaboMilner says:

      Deborah – it seems like you need your own blog. I do not appreciate you coming here and posting multiple lengthy comments that you have posted before elsewhere on my site. If you wish to take part in CONVERSATION as most commenters do, please do so, if you just wish to stand on your own soapbox do so elsewhere.

  18. Deborah Shaya says:

    To HSaboMilner,

    I appreciate your point.
    This is a conversation.
    But before you start conversing – get the interpretation of the Halachah correct.

    Wake up – and become conscious.

    There is No codified Halacha that a married woman must cover her hair totally and constantly whenever she steps out of her house.

    The Halachah has been MISinterpreted. When the Halachah refers to “Covering hair,” it does not mean “Cover your hair with hair!” and “constantly for life.” The Halachah is that:

    A married woman is required to cover her hair when:
    (1) she lights the candles to welcome in Shabbat and Yom Tov – lechavod Shabbat ve Yom Tov, and

    (2) when she goes to the Synagogue, because that is the place of Kedusha.

    The Halacha does not require anything more from married women. This is the true interpretation of the Halacha.

    The misinterpretation of the Torah is completely assur, and a twisting of the Torah.The Torah must remain straight.

  19. Z! says:

    Wow, I have never heard such an anti-religious and Anti-Male rant.
    Deborah Shaya- Religion is not a tit for tat. Do you think it is easy for a man to wake up everyday and go to daven with a minyan? Then to break his concentration in the middle of day to go and do it again, and go later in the evening to do it again? Wearing a kippa constantly? Do you think it’s easy to give up sleeping in Saturday mornings, not eating whatever one wants, and wearing appropriate clothing? I mean why not show your breasts in public?!?! Chava did it!

    - USE THE SPARK OF INTELLIGENCE- D’UH!

    Is religion supposed to be easy? NO! It is FULL of sacrifices. That is what, we believe, makes it all worth while. So, there is a practice that you do not like? Don’t do it. In 120 years we’ll see who suffers the consequences of those actions.

    Covering one’s hair needn’t be done with hair- FYI-some of the first sheitals were made from horse hair…
    A scarf or hat work just as well. I am not sure which tradition you scoff at more- the fact that many women prefer to use hair as it makes them feel more comfortable in the secular world- or not being able to “show off” your own hair. That is the point isn’t it? NOT to “show off”. Get your beauty from within and then come back and judge others.

  20. Deborah Shaya says:

    Z,

    The only point is:

    to interpret the Halachah correctly.

    • Lady Lock and Load says:

      And what makes you, dear Deborah, the one that interprets the Halachah correctly? You learned yorah dayah, you have smicha? Please share with us your credentials.
      This is not a halachic blog, perhaps you would like to direct your comments to blogs that are discussing the halacha and you would generate more attention to the issue you bring up.

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