Quick question

 

Do you believe men and women can be platonic friends? Why or why not? does it matter if either party is married or in a committed relationship? What if they dated and it just didn’t work out? What if one party is romantically interested but the other isn’t? I am very interested in your views…..

Post Written by

No Comments

  1. Emet says:

    Oy!
    I am definitely interested in feedback, but am in no position to comment on that one right now ;)

  2. Absolutely they can be friends, but if one is romantically interested (and the other is not) it could be problematic.

    Marriage shouldn’t make a difference so long as there is no hiding or secrets from the spouse (and that the spouse is comfortable with the situation, of course!).

  3. ladylockandload says:

    I guess they could be friends, but better not to, because it could lead to an affair, G-d forbid. Why take the chance?

  4. Chavi says:

    This is an interesting question, and one that the S.O. and I have had several discussions about. I have a very, very good BFF who I was once-upon-a-time romantically involved with. We’ve been friends for such a long time, and the romance was brief but very strongly affected the both of us. I want this person to be very active in my life, because this person knows me better than anyone — without a doubt. Unfortunately, the S.O. doesn’t feel that way necessarily. I want the S.O. to someday meet said friend, and the S.O has no desire to do so.

    Blech, what a situation.

    It’s such a delicate line to walk. But what it comes down to is trust.

  5. rena says:

    I so wish the answer was yes- but i’ve learned from one too many messy situations, that the answer is no.

  6. CB says:

    I don’t think it works out in the end – someone usaully gets hurt.

  7. batya says:

    i would agree that it generally is not a good idea & typically will lead to problems b/c of human nature. of course, ppl. should be polite & friendly with each other but when ppl of the opposite genders become too close, there are many risks involved.

  8. Jack says:

    I have a number of female friends that I have been close with for years. It has never been a problem whatsoever. The answer is yes it can be done.

  9. Someone else says:

    I like to refer these questions to Harry & Sally;

    Sally: We are just going to be friends, ok?

    Harry: Great! Friends! It’s the best thing.

    Harry: You realise of course that we can never be friends.

    Sally: Why not?

    Harry: What I’m saying is… and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form, is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

    Sally: That’s not true, I have a number of men friends and there’s is no sex involved.

    Harry: No you don’t.

    Sally: Yes I do.

    Harry: No you don’t.

    Sally: Yes I do.

    Harry: You only think you do.

    Sally: You’re saying I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?

    Harry: No, what I’m saying is they all want to have sex with you.

    Sally: They do not.

    Harry: Do too.

    Sally: They do not.

    Harry: Do too.

    Sally: How do you know?

    Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman he finds attractive, he always wants to have sex with her.

    Sally: So you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.

    Harry: Nah, you pretty much wanna nail them too.

Leave A Reply