Pretending to go to the Mikvah
To take a side step from my review of Unorthodox for a moment, in her book Feldman mentions that toward the end of her marriage she would pretend to go the mikvah, instead of actually going and dunking. This is something I have heard from many other women – that they would rather not go, and mislead their husbands into thinking they had gone.
Mikvah sometimes feels like a chore to me, and other times I welcome the opportunity for a little spiritual cleansing. I am not sure of the halachic ramifications of a woman deceiving her husband in this manner, but Feldman claims that such a woman would be called a “Jezebel, a truly evil seductress, dragging my husband into sin with me. If I were to get pregnant, the child would be impure his whole life.”
Why do so many women feel negative about going to mikvah? What can be done to counteract this?