Of Emergency Surgery and To Do Lists
I am a big fan of to-do lists. In the run up to Pesach my lists are epic. But they didn’t include an almost 3 day stay at the hospital.
My littlest guy Mo – not so little at 11 years old – had an emergency appendectomy on Monday. We had been at the ER for 24 hours before he went into surgery and we were sent home Monday night. I read that over and it doesn’t look like that much time. Every minute that we spent there, especially in the ER, felt like an hour.
The Mo was an absolute trouper. No whining or kvetching. Sure, he wasn’t thrilled at the idea of having an operation, but the idea of staying in horrible pain didn’t appeal to him either.
The staff at Westchester Medical Center were phenomenal. Their pediatric ER staff were gentle and kind – not just to Mo but to his mama too. Our surgeon and surgery and anesthesia team could not have taken better care of us. They let me stay with Mo in the operating room until he fell asleep. As he was drifting off he told the surgeon he had nine brothers. News to me! It was hard to leave him there in the OR but I knew he was in good hands. I went to the waiting room where KoD was hanging out with a friend of ours. They made sure that I ate and drank and took care of me and recharged my batteries so I could go back to taking good care of Mo when he came out of surgery.
The Bikur Cholim organization took care of us too – making sure I had food (Mo couldn’t eat for most of his stay) and showing us where to access their kitchen that was filled with all types of foods and goodies.
As he sleeps peacefully now in his own bed, I have revised my to-do list. It reads:
- Take Care of Mo
- Don’t Panic
- Drink Coffee
And I know everything else will get done. The 16 year old comes home from yeshiva tomorrow, the rest of the family is around to help. We have an awesome support network here in the community. Everything will be ready by the time we sit down to the seder. I will not sweat it. I will not panic. I will let it go. The most important thing is that Mo is on his way to healing.