Midlife Crisis Alert!

Midlife Crisis Alert!

Now that I have your attention.

As you all know I recently turned forty. I have used the opportunity to take a long hard look at my life, and to re-examine where I am versus where I want to be. Ah introspection – so good for the soul!

I have loved being a social media rockstar / kosher foodie for the last three years. It’s been an awesome ride. I have learned so much and grown a huge network of friends and contacts, and eaten so much good food. But I am tethered to the computer 24/6. Managing 24 social network accounts at my busiest time left precious little time for me or my family, and I always felt I was dropping the ball somewhere, somehow. I also feel like I was missing out on the big and small moments in my kids’ lives because I am constantly glued to the phone or the iPad or the laptop. Social Media is not a 9 to 5 position.

I never went to college. I scraped through high school, tried out Polytechnic in London (I think they are all universities now) for a month or two, and then went to work. I got married, had my kids…..and am left with regret. Regret that I didn’t push myself to go to school to get a degree. Regret that even though I have a profession I enjoy, that I am limited because of my lack of schooling. I don’t regret being a stay-at-home-mother one bit, I just wish that I had had a great career to resume once the little one was in school.

So, HSM is going to college. We have a community college not too far from us, and I have applied to do an Associate’s Degree in Paralegal Studies. Should take me two years, and enable me to go on to get a Bachelor’s degree, or to go straight to work in my chosen field.

I will be older than most of the students, probably old enough to be their mother, but I don’t plan on socializing a lot with them. I have a lot to do to prepare for school. I have to take a placement test, and dig up my paperwork from London that proves I have a high school diploma – or the equivalent… If not, then I’ll have to take some extra courses, and once I have a certain number of credits I will automatically be able to get my GED. I’d rather avoid hours of math class – but if that’s what it takes, then it will get done.

It isn’t too late for me. For a year or so I have been thinking about doing this, and initially I was concerned that at my advanced age no one will take me seriously. You know what? I need to take myself seriously and the rest will fall into place.

I am excited, and nervous, but I really want / need to do this.

I will still continue with my own personal piece of the social media world – I will continue to blog, and to keep my hand in the Kosher Foodie world, but with more of a back seat. I’m taking the summer to chill and relax and to get myself in tip-top shape to face school in the fall. It’s going to be an interesting journey – buckle up, and enjoy the ride!

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  1. Shorty says:

    Good for you Hadassah! Just so you know while I was in university…(so my mom was probably in her late 40′s early 50′s) my mom went college and did her diploma in electrical engineering technologist. and it’s never to late to go to school and make up for lost time.

  2. Craig says:

    When I was teaching at Boston U, I taught a graduate class for women who wanted to get an MS in engineering when they had undergraduate degrees in other fields. Most had been working a while, and I was the youngest tenure track prof in the university, hence, in that class, I was the youngest person.

    Age in the classroom makes no difference. Own it, enjoy it, let it empower you. Go for it!!!

  3. Marna Becker says:

    So I am still finding myself in the middle of this midlife crisis, but being the precocious one…doing it a bit early. LOL. I am SO proud of you Hadassah!. You always have to do what is best for YOU and not what everyone else thinks. I have a cousin who was a machinist during the war and ran a factory in Melbourne, Australia for many years after. He went back in his 50′s to school and got his PhD in political economy in his 60′s. He speaks 7 languages and has written 9 books between the ages of 60 and 90. This book is about his own journey and cameos are made by members of my family. He’s my grandpa Ben’s first cousin…http://arts.monash.edu.au/jewish-civilisation/resources/holocaust-memoirs/link.php?id=352

  4. batya from nj says:

    B’hatzlacha!! I’m sure you will do great :)!

  5. I’m doing a 3rd Master’s in another city at 48. Now THAT’S crazy!

  6. Susanne says:

    Best of luck! My mother-in-law went back to school once her kids were older too. Her only goal was to graduate college before any of her kids did. She finished just before her oldest. Everyone was very proud.

  7. Mazel tov! My friend’s husband went back in his ’80s. It’s never too late.

  8. Caryn says:

    Good for you. Hatzlacha rabba. Life/Hashem takes us many different places, very often to those places we never expected/thought we could go – enjoy the ride.

  9. Mel from Monsey says:

    Go for it. My wife got her MSc after she was a grandmother several times over. Its never too late.

  10. Amy says:

    Can i count myself as inspiration?

  11. Arnie Samlan says:

    Wishing you a wonderful journey!

  12. Bethany Shondark Mandel says:

    Mazal tov love!

  13. tesyaa says:

    Forty is not too old to do anything – it’s really young. My best friend was a high-powered lawyer for 20 years, then burned out as many lawyers do, and went back to school at age 45 to get a degree in another field, working with children. It’s great to give yourself options. I’m sure you’ll succeed at whatever you try.

  14. I got my MSW at 40. Older students are much better equipped to learn.
    You are such a success, though you don’t need the degree but I totally get the inner desire to go to university. Hatzlacha!

  15. Ronnie Fein says:

    It is NEVER too late to get an education. Bravo to you and best of luck.

  16. Batya says:

    Hadassa, you’re still so young. My mother got her degree in her forties; she studied with my friends. And even though I started at 18, I only completed mine twenty plus years later.
    Go for it!!

  17. BS”D

    Congratulations! I hope that you’ll enjoy your studies, it’s fun! <3

    Lesholom,
    Leye-Shprintse <3

  18. Yay Hadassah! Good for you. I went back to university to get my B.Ed. at the age of 44, so there, you are doing this earlier than I did! Yes, I was much older than most of the students, but there were a few there like me and it all worked out.

    Have a wonderful time!!!

  19. Mark says:

    I say good for you and GO FOR IT!

    My mom went to college at the same time that I did. It worked out that way because my youngest sibling had just started school which enabled her to have time to attend classes and study.

  20. Shayna says:

    My mom started college while i was in high school and finished while I was in college. We both got our Masters degrees at the same time. Education is not just for the “young.” In fact, you will appreciate it more than those young ‘uns because you are “mature.” Kol HaKavod!

  21. Miriam Kohavi says:

    Hi. I am a Paralegal. I don’t want to put a damper on your enthusiasm but I have to say that with so many newly minted (and some older) lawyers out there who can’t get jobs and are doing paralegal work, I would be hesitant to embark on the career now. The truth is that legal secretary is probably a more lucrative path. Just one woman’s opinion from in the trenches. Hatzlacha, whatever you decide.

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