Meanest Mommy Award
The boys are leaving for five weeks next week. They will be spending a good period of quality time up in Montreal with their Dad and their Canadian family. I am looking forward to some time without the constant fighting, talking, shopping, cooking, cleaning, homework, bedtime routine. I am. Two days in and I will be missing them fiercely.
I have a lot to do while they are gone. I have to get Aryeh packed up and ready for Aliyah. (He’s staying here and working). I also have to fumigate their bedrooms.
Teenage boys seem to be allergic to order, and their rooms tend to resemble pig sties. They occasionally clean up (ie: move stuff from one pile to another and put all clothes in the laundry, dirty or not). They spray deodorant to mask any teenage odors, and they febreze their carpets…. but I never feel like their rooms are up to my standards. I try to be un-involved unless I see things that I absolutely cannot ignore – but I try to just close the door and walk on by.
This week I told the boys that while they are gone, anything that is out, on the floor, in a pile, messed up, not put away etc will be thrown out. They need to leave their rooms in a pristine condition. I will be going in to scrub and clean and vacuum and wash windows and air out the shtunk, but anything I find lying around is hefker and will be tossed. They will have had 8 days to comply with my instructions or else they will face the consequences.
Apparently this makes me a demanding mother, a mother who is punishing her children by making them undertake this gigantic task. Point out to the kids that if they kept their rooms clean and tidy this task would not be so gargantuan – falls on deaf ears.
Our kids have too much stuff. I wonder what they would actually miss if it were to disappear from their rooms.
To the people that say I should just turn a blind eye and let kids be kids – if they paid rent or mortgage or contributed to the upkeep of their residence they have the right to keep their rooms as messy as they want. You don’t contribute, you have to toe the line. It may sound harsh, but how are kids ever going to learn otherwise?
Do you have a once a year clear out? Or do you trust the kids to keep their spaces clean?