Immigration Update

I guess I am finally able to be rational and report on our disappointing appointment today. We arrived at the consulate at just gone 7 am and left around 2 pm. It was a long day with only snack machine food and drink, as you cannot bring your own food and beverages, a challenge when you keep kosher. The kids were really good considering….

The company that did our medicals messed up. They neglected to include one of the kids’ medicals in the package. Strike one. Luckily their office was not too far from the building and the KoD was able to go pick up a copy. Which we were later told was not acceptable  – they needed the original – and this was a reason for our visa application to be denied.

The consular official also decided she didn’t like my legal documents – custody etc – they were not official enough for her purposes. Strike two. (I had been told that they would be acceptable).

Strike three – the British police certificate that I had paid through the nose for was not from the company that they (the consulate) recommend, so it had to be redone.

Once I do all that they will be pleased to grant me the visas.

Such a let down. I have to say that I know these people are just doing their jobs but boy does it smart. When we left the consular building the KoD drove us to the office where we did the medicals where I raised Holy Heck! And lo and behold the missing medical was right there, in his file. Why the heck could they not have given it to the KoD when he was there earlier??

I got home, had a huge meltdown, emailed the police certificate forms to a friend to print for me, picked them up, did passport photos for that, photocopied some bills and my passport, spoke to lawyers office to get the officially official legal papers that no consular official can quibble with. First thing in the morning I will get a bank draft and send off for the new police certificate, and by 1030 am tomorrow all the paperwork that I have to redo will be on its way here.

As soon as they get the papers the visas can be issued.

It was such a long and stressful day, and we started out so hopeful. Having the KoD here really made it feel better. He sees the good in everything and was able to tell me that it’s all happening for the best. There is a reason that this all came to pass. We may not know it now, but when you have faith you know it’s all for the good. KoD helped calm me down just by being there for me. He is so supportive and totally my rock.

It would have been so easy for us to point the finger at each other and lay blame – “I told you to do this” or “why didn’t you do that?” and totally get into a fight. I am so proud that we didn’t behave that way. We are a unit, a couple, and we stand together. When one is weak the other is strong and vice versa. I have never felt so loved by another person in all my life.

I have faith that we will be together forever very soon – just a bridge or two left to cross.

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  1. Raizy says:

    what a day, what a story, and how incredible that you saw the good in it and really turned it around – you both are a STRONG couple and there is such strength in unity – please keep us posted!!!
    can it happen tomorrow??

  2. lady lock and load says:

    “As soon as they get the papers the visas should be issued”
    So how much longer will you have to wait?
    Thanks for the update, Lady lock and load and family are rooting for you!

  3. tila says:

    I love the respect that you have for each other. THATS what a relationship is all about.

  4. Elianah-Sharon says:

    I agree with the KOD – things happen in Hashem’s time. Not necessarily ours. You have to let it work itself out. ..and I just know it will! Like Anth’s conversion. ..it happened when it was supposed to. <3

  5. batya from NJ says:

    i’m impressed with your positive attitude b/c i’m sure it’ll help you deal with the situation more easily.

    i’m also hoping that you get the paperwork in order ASAP & will soon get the visas you so desperately want from Immigration.

    we’re rooting for you in NJ :)!

  6. Otir says:

    I have never commented on your immigration posts so far, because being an immigrant in the US myself, I have no easy story to relate to, and I never wanted to give you negative stories beforehand.

    As your KoD states it so well, it all comes for the good, gam zu l’tova, even when most of the times we can never see how or why. And in all, it certainly comes to pass, once you have your visas, it will be soon just memories, fading in the distance very quickly.

    Hang in there.

    • HSaboMilner says:

      thanks – somehow it is weirdly comforting to know we are not the only ones with a complicated experience!!

  7. Baya says:

    Big bummer. So sorry to hear about this. I was praying for you today. I hope it gets worked out soon. Such a lot of silly hassles for no good reason.

  8. T says:

    the government and there bloody papers!!!!
    you should hear the rant I’m having for you now, H!!!!
    so…wed. come for a drink and we’ll have some laughs together.
    For some reason I can’t explain, I’m still very excited for you all. Just have a good vibe about something, that’s all.
    we love you.
    by the by…it’s a good thing D reads your blog.
    xo

  9. Chav says:

    Hadassah, I am so sorry about the disappointment today. I am also so inspired by you and KoD for the way that you pull together and support eachother. That’s the silver lining. You are building beautiful memories of support and love.
    My hope for you is that this fixes fast and you end up here for good..very soon!

  10. Sarah says:

    Thinking of you. I know how hard it is right now – but admire how amazingly strong you’re being. And thankfully KoD is such a rock. Hang in there, I know this is a set-back and hugely disappointing, but you’re so nearly there …

    • HSaboMilner says:

      Sarah – you and I have been through so much in our decades of friendship, your support means so much. HUGS!!

  11. ilanadavita says:

    Administrations can be terrible. As you say they are only doing their jobs but it is a pain when they disagree about what is acceptable or not.
    Let us now when everything is fine and you finally get your visas.

  12. And to think, I thought only in Israel is there bureaucratic snafus. So, we are like all other nations?

    Amazed at your reasonableness.

    It’ll soon be over.

    • lady lock and load says:

      Yisrael….it says Eretz Yisroel knuya beyisurim, right ;)

    • HSaboMilner says:

      Yisrael – this reasonableness is only there after having a meltdown (or 7). KoD is to be credited with steering me in the “reasonable” direction.

  13. Sure, ארץ ישראל נקנית ביסורין, but that’s here – why there? You mean it’s no better than being here? If so, come on over. ;->)

  14. Chanief says:

    Hadassah, I’m really sorry you did not get the visas yesterday, but amazed at your positive attitude about it. You and the KoD ROCK! I hope the paperwork is signed, sealed, and delivered SOON!!

  15. Benji Lovitt says:

    Sorry to hear this, HSM. How long do you think it will take to end this once and for all?

  16. Z! says:

    Just so crazy making! giant huge ARGS! and a huge hug too. You’ll join me here yet! Debs had a baby girl- in case you didn’t hear.

  17. Chaviva says:

    Oy va voy. You know, this is what Evan is for me in these kind of situations, too. I fall apart, and he makes it work. It’s such a good thing to have.

    I’m so sorry this went so poorly for you, but you’re working it out and it’s going to be FINE. *hugs hugs hugs*

  18. chana frydman says:

    I’m sure this will be resolved quickly and one day you will look back and maybe even laugh about it! Sorry you have to go through this:(

  19. blackhuff says:

    I really hope that next time will go better. It is so frustrating when things do not want to go one’s way especially with immigration. Good luck.

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