Immigration Update #45208

There isn’t much to say other than we are not getting our visas. Yep. Simply put, apparently they no longer process these visas and we have to go for Green Cards necessitating more waiting and more nail biting and more freaking forms. Forget about the fact that we paid a lot of money in fees for the visas.

I could go on and on about the awful treatment we have received, and the incompetence of certain people in official capacity. But I won’t. I could complain to you that after we paid all our money they told us they weren’t issuing the visas. I could witter on about KoD’s extremely disappointing visit to the consulate to try and talk to someone and get someone to help us.

I could even whine and moan that my apartment lease is up at the end of the month and we have nowhere to go, and that we are still waiting for our passports to be returned to us – but why would I want to yank you into my mire of self pity?

Well, we have now become people who have hired a bevy of lawyers to help us out, because any way you look at it, life has become even more difficult. Hopefully we won’t have to resort to selling our organs in order to settle these bills.

For those of you that want to help us out with $ (see what I have been reduced to??) I have set up a a paypal account – from this page enter the following email address to donate MilnerLegalFund at gmail dot com . If you wish to donate in Canadian funds go to the same page but use the address of MilnerLegalFundCa at gmail dot com. The Facebook page can be found HERE.

I want to take the opportunity to thank those of you who have been extremely helpful and supportive in many different ways – don’t stop, ok? We need you.

This has been a long journey already (15 months married this Shabbat) and it so isn’t over. But as I was telling my girlfriend the other day – I am not in this mess alone. I have the KoD by my side, keeping me focused, keeping it real, making me feel loved every single step of the way. Yes this is an annoyance. It’s frustrating and I want to cry and scream and howl at the moon. But at the end of all of this crapitude I will be living FULL TIME with my husband (I know, what a concept) and kids. Just have to get through a few more doses of yuck to get there.

(There will be more detailed posts on this insanity to follow. I simplified it because I am so sick of thinking about it and dealing with it and living and breathing it….)

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  1. meiradavi says:

    I’m glad you are doing this, creating the paypal account. I have seen it used successfully to raise money in other circumstances on twitter and facebook. Those of us who love you and feel so powerless against this crazy bureaucracy want to be able to do something tangible. Every donation, no matter how big or small will take some of the pressure off of you and Ira. As soon as it is set up, please let us know. Let’s all work together to get you and the boys to the U.S. so you can really begin this part of your life.

  2. Talia says:

    Oh… I am so sorry!! That is really sucky. We want people to be legal immigrants but then there are all these hoops to jump through. If an intelligent couple like you guys can’t navigate them…

    Good luck with the new process.

  3. ilanadavita says:

    And I thought French administration was bad. Immigrating here is a walkover compared to the U.S.
    Don’t lose hope!

  4. Frayda says:

    Hadassah, I am so sorry. I am crying for you. Please let your American friends know if there is anything we can do for you such as writing more letters, marching in Washington D.C., etc.

  5. mrsjessica says:

    Talia, I agree completely. We want people to come here legally, and yet we make it nearly impossible to do so. We jumped through so many hoops just to get green cards that I have been putting off citizenship for a long time for that exact reason.

    Hadassah, I am so sorry that this is going so badly for you now, and that you will have to move before you move. Ugh! I wish I had some magic words to make it better. I do have a suggestion for a law practice if you need one, although it looks like you’re okay on that front. If it’s any consolation, we had incredible trials through every step of the process – at one point we had to go back to South Africa (all three of us!) to pick up a piece of paperwork. It would have taken them 3 months to send it to Toronto, and my father couldn’t work until we had that paper. It was a mess. I wish I could make this all better for you, but just know that you’re not alone!!

  6. PaulaG says:

    Oh my sweet friend… This just makes my heart hurt. My man and I get frustrated living across the county from each other until we are married. And here you sit being kept from moving to have your family together. AARRGGHH!! Please know I will be lifting prayers for you guys. One thing you said is something Jody and I hold close in our hearts… yes it stinks, but you are together in your hearts, and he truly is by your side as you work through all this TOGETHER.
    Love ya girlie..

  7. shorty says:

    I am praying for you my friend.

  8. Frume Sarah says:

    Chazak v’amatz. Prayers and hugs. Hoping I can get some direction from some emails I sent out…

  9. Chanief says:

    Oh Hadassah, I am so so sorry. Huge hugs to you and your family. :o(

  10. rgoldstand says:

    Oh God… Strength, strength and to you my dear. I had no idea it could be so difficult to get into the US. Unbelievable… I’m praying for you guys that God who brought you & KoD together should help you BE together anytime, all the time, in no time!

    You are an inspiration. Stay strong!!

  11. ERICA says:

    Good that you hired lawyers …I really think that at this point in time, if your situation is the least bit “complicated”, it’s the only way to go.
    They’ll get you through this as efficaciously as is possible, and I’ll wager, that in retrospect, you’ll consider it money well spent.

  12. Mike S. says:

    I am so sorry. I hope you can work this out quickly.

  13. fille says:

    that’s very sad. I’m sorry for you.

  14. tesyaa says:

    Hadassah, hang in there.

  15. Vicki says:

    Horrible . Just horrible. What will you be doing for your living situation? Would it be possible to send 80% of everything along to Monsey and then get a short-term lease on an apartment that’s already furnished? It would take a lot of stress out of your life I think.

  16. J+1 says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Lawyers sound like the way to go.

    Keeping all of you in my thoughts.

  17. So, so sorry to hear this Hadassah. YOu guys are in my thoughts and prayers.

  18. Miriam Shenny says:

    Hi my dear friend Hadassah,
    I have been thinking about you lots. You are so lucky you have Ira to love you and be by you. In life when something is so hard to acheive, its not meant to be. I still do not have my get I am just trying to get on with my life the best I can. All my love Miriam xx

  19. Outrageous! Is there anyone you can sue? Try bigger publicity than blogging?

    How about starting totally new lives in Israel?

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