How Things Change – Babies
My youngest is turning 11 this month. When I was pregnant with him we found out early on that he was a boy, but we kept that information to ourselves. With the first I didn’t ask. I knew in my heart he was a boy, and I didn’t need any ultrasound to tell me differently. With #2 I found out, my (then) husband didn’t want to know, so he had no idea that I knew. With #3 we found out together. But no one else knew. Of course by boy #4 they all assumed he’d be a male, but we told no one.
These days most women will find out the sex of their baby, some will keep it to themselves, but most share it with their family and friends (and Facebook). In Jewish families I guess in a way it makes it easier, because that way you know if you’ll need to prepare for a brit or not. If your married kids live far away, it helps you plan better. But I am from the school of no preparation before a baby is born because we don’t want to tempt the evil eye.
But it just doesn’t sit well with me. It’s all well and good Mom and Dad knowing what sex their baby is, but is it something to be shared with everyone? Is it not an ayin ra to say “we’re having a boy” or “it’s a girl”? In my circle people didn’t even say they were having twins when that was the case.
What are your thoughts? Did you know? Did you share with everyone?