I am on Day 5 of an intense bout of back pain. (Day 2 included a six hour drive…..not the best idea when one is in pain). I have some lumbar spine issues that cause me chronic daily pain. Mostly the pain is “quiet” – i.e. something I have learned to live with, it bothers me, but I don’t advertise. I wrote about my struggle with taking painkillers here. There are occasions when I have bad flare ups. Times when the feeling in my left leg is minimized or feels like pins and needles for hours, when pain shoots from my lower back up to my neck and down to my little toe. I have been fortunate that I took some pain management therapy and generally know all the steps to take to ride through the flare ups. I know all the steps. Just taking them seems to be hard to do! Preventing the flare ups would be even better. I am not supposed to lift more than 5 lbs. Ha!

Ideally I would sit in a hot bath for an hour, curl up in bed with a good book and a heating pad / hot water bottle, wash rinse and repeat for at least 48 hours. Take advil or naproxen every 4 hours. Break out the narcotics if there is serious need. But just take it easy. If I could do that, within a couple of days I would be right as rain and able to carry on as normal.

But I have kids. They need feeding. Often. They can bathe themselves, which helps. They need clean laundry – although when they are home they do help with putting it away. Squiggy likes to actually do the laundry, but school gets in the way of that. Dishes need to be washed – again, I know the kids can do it, but I do a better job. The house needs to be cleaned. Etc etc. I set myself high standards, and need to set my sights much lower. I know that. But I cannot go to bed and say “to heck with the world, I need to rest”. It doesn’t work that way.

At least today and tomorrow the kids have half days at school, so when they come home they can help me out. At least I have a laptop so I can type from my bed if so inclined. The kosher stores are not far and they do deliver if I need them to.

Anyone have a back replacement to lend me?

</end of whine>

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  1. batya from NJ says:

    no, but i know where you can get a kidney ;)!

  2. Ariela says:

    Try Pilates – it will solve your back problems

  3. Lady Lock and Load says:

    Sounds like a massage might be good for you. I heard it makes all the aches and pains go away. I am going to go for one, one of these days, maybe we will go together Hadassah!
    I hope you will feel better soon. The back is the major support of the body and when you have back pain it is very painful. feel bad for you :( I think pilates are great but not when you are having a flare up.

  4. Mark says:

    Refuah Shlemah!!! Unfortunately the only thing that really helps back pain is time.

  5. Mark says:

    Also, and I hesitate recommending this, you might want to consider doing regular exercises that strengthen your “core” (abdominals, back, obliques, etc). If the musculature around the length of the back is strong, the back has less to bear and thus will generally incur less injury, and when injured will heal faster.

    • hadassahsabo says:

      why hesitate?

      • Z! says:

        Yeah, everyone else is offering their opinions…

        I know that you have suffered for a long time and have tried everything for this.
        I am glad that you no longer have to, or try to, carry your youngest child around.

        You are your own worst enemy. Miss you tons.

      • batya from NJ says:

        ok, i really hesitate suggesting this b/c you will probably block me from now on for my evil assumptions but i would think that the back pain may be from the high heels… uh oh, i know it… i am in the doghouse ;)!

      • Mark says:

        Because I hate telling people what to do … especially when they are in pain.

        Plus telling people to exercise is in the class of (though of much lower severity) telling people they are fat, asking if they are pregnant, stupid comments about someones baby, etc. Or asking if someone is bulemic :-)

    • Lady Lock and Load says:

      I agree with mark, doing regular exercises that strengthen the core would help alot, but only after this flare up settles down.
      This is why it is important for Hadassah to join my gym (take note KOD :) ). And she also needs a proffessional massage.

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