Dating Question

Shamelessly lifted from Hashkafa.com. I find their posts so entertaining (but probably not in the way they were intended)

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Let’s say you set two people up. After a date or two, girl feels very positive, likes him a lot, etc. Guy is not saying no and does want to continue dating but he is not so excited and doesn’t think it will lead anywhere.

Do you:

A) Tell the girl exactly where the guy is holding, so she does not get her hopes up too high?

B) Do not say anything, as being fully honest will effect how the girl acts on the next date as she will lose self-confidence.

The guy wants you to pass along the message as he wants to be fully honest, but it is definately your discretion.

What would you do?

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  1. David says:

    Two dates seems awfully early to pull the plug without an explicit negative indicator.

  2. tesyaa says:

    I don’t know, it sounds like the guy isn’t really interested but wants to keep his options open until someone sets him up with someone better.

    It’s probably kinder to tell the girl the whole truth and let her decide if she even wants to see him again. I think he’s using her a little.

  3. Wyman Brent says:

    Dating should be taken slow. I was seeing someone who was a real doll. On the second date I bit her on the neck and she flew out the window…never to be seen again.

  4. Jess says:

    As someone currently in the dating world, I would prefer to get the whole truth. And I agree with tesyaa, it sounds like he is keeping his options open.

  5. Mark says:

    I would wonder what exactly they are talking about on their dates if not compatibility and interest. And if she can’t get a sense of whether he is interested or not, perhaps she is too young to be dating? And if he is a “trickster” who is just playing a game, hopefully word gets around about that pretty quickly.

  6. sheldan says:

    I definitely say A. The girl should know where she stands. (I know that even if it hurt, it was better for me when I was dating to know where I stood.) Even if it was early in the relationship, if one party is not sure whether or not to pursue and it is not merely from selfish motives, it is unfair to waste the time of the girl to continue.

  7. Z! says:

    it has been my obversation that if the guy isn’t “into you”, it’s usually a no-go. Why allow him to continue wasting her time?

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