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Heinous or Harmless – Hair Covering and Dating

I have a friend “Roni” who was unfortunately widowed a while ago. She is the mother of young children trying to bring them up as grounded as possible, without a husband at her side. She…

WWYD – Shidduchim / Marriage

Shamelessly taken off a messageboard: A kallah [bride] asked me to post this and solicit your opinions. The kallah is in her late 20s, and smoked 1/2 a pack a day from age 13 until…

Medical Reports in dating – Heinous or Harmless

From Hashkafa.com Can I see a medical report about your sexual / emotional health? Is this an appropriate question when dating BTs? Is this done? Is it offensive? Is it considered a reasonable request? Is…

WWYD – Two Timer

Your friend is dating Mr X. Seriously dating, as in talking marriage. You happen to hear from somewhere else that the same Mr X is actually dating someone else as well, in a different city….

Matchmaker frustration

Long time reader and commenter Sheldan sent me the following last week. I decided to post it in its entirety so the rest of you could also read and comment. Hadassah, This Shabbat I was…

Heinous or Harmless – Dating

From Matzav.com Dear Matzav.com Editor, My heart is so broken. I have been carrying a bleeding heart for over a month and cannot withstand it anymore. I do not want to tell my parents nor…

WWYD? – dating

A single girlfriend of mine (please forgive me for shamelessly stealing your story but you did tweet it) was recently set up with a bloke. They had some phone conversations before they actually met, to…

Slim Pickings

Just had a girlfriend bending my ear about the ridiculousness of the shidduch business. She said all the shadchanim (matchmakers) really want to know is the size of the girl – slim, average or forget-about-it….

How many did you date?

In recent conversations with a friend, who is in her twenties and married, she happened to mention that her husband had dated almost 50 girls before he met her, and she had dated almost 20…

My kids are in shidduchim!!

No, not mine. Not now, hopefully not ever. Yes, that’s right. I hope they find their other half by themselves without my involvement. They are good looking boys and very personable, so they won’t have…

Dating Stories

Share your awesome or awful dating stories here. Let us know whether they were first dates, last dates, blind dates or fresh dates.

Oh Puhleeze!

Come on! Opening the door for your female shidduch date is not tznius, nor is pulling out her chair for her at a restaurant? You are not allowed to compliment your date on what they…