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From the Mailbag: Deciding When to Have Children

From the Mailbag: Deciding When to Have Children

When I was first married, all I wanted was to be a mom. I just wanted a baby – I had wanted kids since the time I was 12. A baby to call my own,…

Heinous or Harmless: Calling the Caterer

Heinous or Harmless: Calling the Caterer

Just got an email from a friend who is making a wedding in Toronto, with guests being bused in from Monsey. A ten-hour bus ride. The family is paying for their friends to go with…

From the Mailbag: Spousal Privacy

From the Mailbag: Spousal Privacy

I saw this question on ImaMother too. I find it interesting that the person posted there and emailed me too. Hmmm. Or maybe someone else emailed me the question for the mailbag? Who knows. Anyhow….

From the Mailbag: Hair Covering

From the Mailbag: Hair Covering

Received this morning from a reader: Hi HaDassah –   I have been pondering this issue for a long while, and wanted to hear your thoughts and those of your readers.     I have…

Mikvah and the Single Girl

Mikvah and the Single Girl

I regularly get emails from all kinds of people asking me all kinds of questions. This one just popped into my FB mailbox. Hey HSM, Can you ask your people a question: What’s the deal…

WWYD from the Inbox: Wedding

Dear Hadassah, I received an invitation to my friend’s daughter’s wedding in November. We’d have to travel to get there – but it’s doable. I’d like to go, but I know it’s going to be…

From the Mailbag:

Dear HaDassah, In one month and one week I will be turning 38. I’ve never been married and so far there are no prospects. I’m getting to the point where I have to accept the…

Jewish Burial Plots

Letter from a reader in Florida: We went to one of the local Jewish cemeteries yesterday to look at purchasing some plots.  (We have two of them locally. This is the nicer one and has…

WWYD – Letter from a Reader

What would you do? Read the letter and let us know in the comments. Dear Hadassah, I love my housekeeper. She is my oasis of sanity in a frenetic world. I work full time and…

Heinous or Harmless – Hair Covering and Dating

I have a friend “Roni” who was unfortunately widowed a while ago. She is the mother of young children trying to bring them up as grounded as possible, without a husband at her side. She…

Modesty – for the entire family?

From the mailbox: Dear HSM I was at a Canadian indoor water park and saw a number of frum families where dads and sons were shirtless and in shorts frolicking while mom and daughters were…

Spending time with a friend

The following is a letter from a reader, the subject – a friend’s weight loss and the reader’s difficulty in spending time with her since the weight loss. Our reader wonders why she is having…