From the Mailbag: Hair Covering
Received this morning from a reader:
Hi HaDassah -
I have been pondering this issue for a long while, and wanted to hear your thoughts and those of your readers.
I have been covering my hair for many years. Of the last few, I have been so turned off by what I’ve seen that I’m seriously considering stopping. I have already made the decision to not cover my hair professionally and am so thrilled with that decision for me. It was not an easy one, and I read articles and books to help and I didn’t take it lightly. It was hours of open discussions and sleepless nights (“Will I be struck by lightening!?”)
While it has been great, I must admit a situation that had me second guessing my choices. I was riding the subway and was sitting across from a young frum guy. We both got up to exit the train. He put his hand on his head, took off his kippah and placed it in his pocket. At the same moment I reached for my head covering, removed it, and placed it in mine. This situation resonated with me for a while, and in all honesty it upset me.
A few days ago, on my Facebook News Feed an image popped up and I literally nearly fell off my chair. I’m attaching the image. I was enraged at what I saw. Are we really comparing ourselves and our sheitels to these dead beat “celebrities”? I use that term loosely as this one in particular became famous over a sex tape!
I posted the image on my wall and received a slew of responses. 3 of those responses were from women who in recent years stopped covering their hair. Upon further discussion with one of them (offline) she told me that these sorts of things (longer sheitels and shorter skirts) were the exact reason she stopped. I completely understand. I even heard a response that women are getting hair extensions as their “hair covering”!
I’m 99.99% sure I’ll be stopping completely too. Please don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe women should look ugly (never!) but, is their hair underneath as beautiful for their husbands as it is on the outside? I suspect not.
Thank you for taking the time to respond! I have always enjoyed reading your posts from your mailbag and thought this issue may be interesting and thought provoking for others.
HSM: image removed on request of owner.