I found this ecard online the other day. And I laughed because it was so apt. I posted it to Facebook and several of my friends also commented that it was so totally them.
I want to be the type of person that can ask for help, and truly want the help that is requested. I occasionally ask for help – but then I need to oversee how it’s being done, just to ensure that it is done the right way. Many times I will take over and do it myself, just so that it gets done my way.
In other words, I am a control freak. I hate that about myself. I hate that when I need to ask for help, I don’t, and that when I actually do ask for help, there are conditions involved on my end.
For the longest time I tried to teach the boys how to make their beds. Being a Brit, we use duvet covers. The kids always complained that getting a duvet into the cover was like wrestling with a crazy animal. “Ima, show me again how to do it”. And I would show them time and time and time again. They would do it, make a pigs’ ear out of it, so Ima would take over.
Eventually (I can be slow) I realized they were playing me. They realized they wanted to sleep in comfortable beds and they learned how to put on a duvet cover.
That only happened when I let go of the need for it to be done MY way.
I need to adopt that in all other areas of my life. I need to a) ask for help and b) accept the help as it is given.
Anyone have any advice how to do the aforementioned a) and b) without feeling as if I am giving up all control?