2009 Retrospective

Wow! What a year. My life changed so much, but not as much as we thought it would.

January was a month full of plans – we were planning our wedding, and the rest of our lives together. We continued working at blending our family. The kids were up to their usual stuff – one got hit in the head with a “light saber”.

Then February rolled around, ‘twas the nuptial month! And the month started with a bang! Prince Squiggy broke his ankle ten days before the wedding. Oy what a to do! I guess this was a way to keep me focused on the important things. February 15th came around, and the KoD and I tied the knot in front of family and friends. Truly the most wonderful day ever. The story is written in three parts. Part One. Part Two. Part Three. This post makes me smile every time I read it – perfection.

We invested in a new van that later would be denied access to Canada, but I wrote about the fun we had choosing it here.

In March I wrote about the miracle of my youngest son. He is so darn cute. The love between the KoD and I continued to grow. We spent an awesome Purim together here in Montreal.

I had a tremendous amount of fun compiling Mah Nishtanah in several languages in preparation for Passover.

Then I got stuck at the border with our new van. They didn’t let me in to Canada with it. This is an ongoing saga.

April started with a crazy amount of preparations for Pesach. We had an awesome holiday together. Soon after my neighbour volunteered the use of his car to me. It’s been a total god-send. Apart from the flat tire we suffered in NY! Doing passport pictures that month was a nightmare. This was also the month that I temporarily gave up coffee. We also crossed the border with our hearts hammering a million to the dozen because we had been told we could be turned back. It turned out not to be true.

Then came May – winter was finally over and spring well and truly here. I kept off the coffee. And continuing on the health kick I started running in the morning. Soon enough I fell off the wagon. I blogged about the seemingly schizophrenic existence of living in two places at once. We celebrated three months of wedded bliss. I had some more border trouble. I started Wednesday’s Wacky Signs on the blog. We had another “health” issue with one of the kids. I introduced you all to the parade pisher. We celebrated Shavuot up here in Montreal.

June rolled around and we were still here. I shared some stories about the kids and what they got up to in the kitchen – coffee maker and scrambled eggs. I wrote about an awesome weekend with the KoD (every weekend with him is incredible). Then he just had to play a prank on me. We talked about US English versus the language that I speak. I posted a post to the KoD on Father’s Day. The kids totally adore their step dad! Then I wrote this post “Lament of the Panty Hose” that brings more visitors to my site daily than any other post. Go Figure!

School was out for the summer and here we were in July. I posted a list of wedding necessities that was totally tongue in cheek. I realized how grown up my eldest was getting. We had our first visit to Chuck E Cheese. What an experience! More musings… that were possibly interrupted by a mouse. Obviously I was in a cranky mood, because everything was bothering me. I yelled at people that envied us our long distance marriage. Prince Squiggy was welcomed into the “Club of the tefillin Strappers”. I explained why I question so many things in Judaism.

In August I got to spend more quality time with my KoD and I totally enjoyed every single minute of it. I blogged about a miscarriage I had had years ago, an article that is read on an almost daily basis, found through search engines. The KoD took me on a Harley ride – exhilarating! I blogged about Socialized Medicine. I loved this post – a visit to the store turns out to be anything but mundane. With lead up to my son’s barmitzvah, I experienced mixed emotions. Squiggy’s barmitzvah was awesome. We were all so proud of him.

September dawned with no visas in sight. I was interviewed for a research project about divorce, which led to me writing about my own experiences at the Bet Din. I ranted about people talking in shul. I attempted to explain my Feminism here. Seems more and more people were upsetting me these days, and I again ranted about being apart from my husband. But then I shared a favourite KoD story. I received this awesome email from a reader that totally made my day. I ‘fessed up to my struggle with insomnia and I wondered if I had misjudged my stepmother. I shared an Immigration Update – not the news we had wanted. And I had more car woes….sigh.

October came around and brought with it our medical appointment for the visas. It also brought out another Parade Pisher. In keeping with the water theme I wrote about the mikvah. Firstly about dipping etiquette, followed by the secret code. I started a new occasional column called My Judaism. Readers can submit their own personal stories. This was the first. We discussed divorce and whether a Get can be rescinded. I also talked about the censorship of books. This month my comment count started to get higher and my daily hits really skyrocketed. I shared another Immigration Update.

November announced its arrival with Swine Flu hitting my house. The KoD and I celebrated the anniversary of when we met. We talked about premarital classes for brides.

Another popular post was Superstitions and Segulahs. I must have been PMS-ing really badly when I wrote this Open Letter to Men. The bad mood continued when I heard women shouldn’t blog, because it isn’t modest.

Coming back into Canada I got stopped and questioned. I also blogged about a GPS that was being passed on to me by the KoD and got my highest number of comments ever (107). Apparently wanting a GPS made me shallow and materialistic. Who knew?! I also blogged about the fact that Moms get no respect.

December brought me the realization that 2009 would end with us still up here in Canada. That didn’t help my mood much. I blogged about Queen Esther possibly being a sexual being. And why that disturbed me. I urged divorced couples to just let the aggravation go and move on with their lives. Another poular post was gleaned from the story of Dina and Shechem – that Dina “asked” to be raped. We also discussed whether its appropriate to show affection in front of children. Chanukah came around and I told you about our Chanukah Miracle. One of my favourite posts from this month was Conversations Over a Grocery Cart. After about the bazillionth comment that was so unnecessary I decided to print up flash cards. I discussed hair covering – always a popular subject.

All in all, there were a lot of ups and downs this year. But through it all my love for the KoD has grown by leaps and bounds, as has his for me. The kids have grown and matured and been totally awesome and annoying and loving and loyal.

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May this next year of 2010 bring us all health and happiness, and 5 brand spanking new visas for us!!

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  1. MeiraD says:

    It has been a blessing to share a part of the year with you. While we don’t all share of life’s details, I think most of us can find something to identify with. You are brave, smart and a wonderful writer. You don’t judge others in their Jewish journeys. I have learned much from you as we have shared our lives.
    My wish for you is that 2010 is a year of good changes and much deserved shalom. May your life become the “normal” that most of us who live with our own KoDs don’t completely appreciate. May you love for Ira grow ever stronger and may all of your children gain confidence and insight as they witness your love.
    You are a dear friend.


  2. Z! says:

    Thank you for that little walk through the past year.

  3. tikunolam says:

    Wow. What a year. Glad I have been getting a chance to get to know you at the end of it :)

  4. Jack says:

    It has been quite a year hasn’t it.

  5. Chaviva says:

    What a gnarly way to round up the year. If I have enough patience, I might do something similar :)

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